27 Nov 2013

DEMYSTIFYING FAILURE

By Ezim Osai ,
Wednesday, November 27, 2013
  
                                             "If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again."
                                                                                                   - Mrs Helen Odume

Failure is your friend. The world is designed in such a way that people tend to be afraid of failure and avoid it at all costs and ignore the reality of things. Failure is inherently neutral; like money it is neither good nor bad but can be interpreted and used anyway one chooses to, based on his temperament, beliefs and frame of mind.

Failure is relative as well. It does not mean the same thing to two people. If Individual A plans to score 70% or higher in an examination and another Individual B plans to score at least 40% in the same examination, their bases of failure are different. Therefore, if A scores 65% he would not have met his target which is a failure of sorts, while B who may have scored 42% will be very pleased with himself for having met his target. Although the score of Individual A is higher than the score of Individual B and the world may look at Individual B as a failure, Individual B would probably be more pleased with himself than A would as he met and passed his own target. This is what failure and success is and not what we sometimes go about forcing ourselves to believe.

22 Nov 2013

WALKING THE TIGHTROPE: FOR THE LOVE OF THE SIDE CHICK

By KemmieOla ,
Friday, November 22, 2013


The phenomenon that is the side chick has existed for as long as possible. I'm talking about early BC's here; I could take us all the way back to the creation story itself, but in the words of the great Madam Sweet Brown; Ain't nobody got time fo' dat.

A side chick is like the icing on the cake, the salad in your fried rice, the crayfish in your draw soup and so on (I know I like to use weird analogies; I'm sorry). She is that little extra that you don't really need, but you still want anyway just because you can. Now, the side chick is feared the world over by all main chicks and Olivia Pope haters alike for reasons ranging from the fact of their simple existence to the thought of the things they are doing and will do to have/keep the men.

20 Nov 2013

ISSUES IN THE EDUCATION OF THE FEMALE IN NIGERIA

By Ezim Osai ,
Wednesday, November 20, 2013



Whatever a man can do, a woman can do better…
-General saying


I was talking with a colleague of mine about her project a while back and along the line we got talking about the education of the female child in Nigeria. This colleague of mine is a 400-level student of Botany at the University of Ibadan. I asked her “What are the challenges of female education in Nigeria?” and her reply was almost instantaneous. It was “Inferiority complex”; as a result I proceeded to ask a number of female colleagues of mine the same question; here are their answers:

11 Nov 2013

LEADERSHIP IN NIGERIA: CRITICISM IS NOT ENOUGH

By Ezim Osai,
Monday, November 11 2013

Take care of your thoughts,
Then, actions will take care of themselves…..
You sow your character and reap your destiny,
Therefore, your destiny is in your hands.
-Sathya Sai Baba






Nigeria has always been called the Giant of Africa from time immemorial; densely populated and very diverse, boasting of over two hundred and fifty ethnic groups. Pride of the west and loudest voice in ECOWAS; we have sat on the United Nations Security Council as a non-permanent member four times since our independence. Truly, we are a great nation despite all that has happened in recent times.

On the NTA Network News a while ago, our President used an adage I loved and I will paraphrase it here: “If you want to take over a house, you do not set dynamites and bring it down first”. What this means is that even when we do not like something or someone, we should try to criticize constructively and not slander and crucify the person when we covet their position. This is something we youths are very guilty of; we badmouth our government and insult our country on social media and multinational platforms. As my friend’s dad would say “People buy what they see”; if we keep on making our nation seem like it is at war with itself or that our government is totally useless, in ten or twenty years when we are in the same office how can we hope to change the minds of those people that our very own words poisoned? As we approach Independence Day, we should reflect, not on what Nigeria has done for us but for what we have done for her.

4 Nov 2013

In service to the Nation.

By Ezim Osai, for 9jeducation
Monday, November 4 2013

Ezim talking to Students
"People will not always believe in you, people will not always help you. All you have to do is to believe in yourself and your cause"
                                                        -Anonymous


On the 14th of October, 2013, a particular thought crossed my mind; my thought was on how I could do more for Nigeria that has done so much for me with the little that I have. After much analysing and thinking, I decided to do something that I have always loved and which drew from part of my skillset: I decided to teach.

Deciding to teach was just the beginning, the questions of who to teach, what to teach, when to teach, how to teach and where to teach were still unanswered. After much analysing and thinking once again, I decided to teach senior secondary students and I decided to focus on Choosing Courses, Careers and Institutions, ICT and Social Media and also on Character Development. Knowledge on these topics was something I believed was lacking in a number of our undergraduates today and also lack of knowledge of these topics was the reason a number of JAMBITES did not get admission into their desired institutions or admission to study their course of choice. Knowing what I wanted to teach and how I wanted to teach it was one thing, the next was how to convince principals and administrators to give me some time to talk to their students and for this, I sought help from my personal bank of knowledge and experience: my mother. My mother explained to me the approach to take, things to say, what to wear, and the schools to go to. She went further to even help me prepare the building blocks of my lecture and really saved me a lot of time in doing so.

Due to the Eid break, I was only able to go to the chosen schools from Thursday the 15th of October. Following my mother’s advice, the first school I visited was my Alma Mater, DPPS High School, Ogwashi Uku, which was in a neighbouring town. After pleasantries and greetings I explained to the principal the purpose of my visit and the enthusiasm which he greeted it with was a real confidence booster. When I left his office about ten minutes later for my next school, I was very confident in my abilities and I was positive every other school would be a piece of cake (of course I was wrong). The next school I visited was West End Mixed Secondary School, Asaba where things did not go as smoothly. After waiting for over two hours by the corridor, I was finally ushered in to discuss with the principal and administrative staff. When they had heard my proposal, the principal referred me to the guidance counsellors saying that they were in the best position to listen to and make sense of my proposal (in less pleasant words).

Choosing a Course of Study, Career, and Institution.

By Ezim Osai,
Monday, November 4 2013

A man who asks a question is a fool for five minutes, but one who does not is a fool for a lifetime
-Abraham Lincoln




It is common knowledge that a number of secondary school students choose subjects/courses impulsively and most times, their decisions are very influenced by peers. It is also common knowledge that some secondary school students decide to be science-students because they believe that ‘that is where the money is’ or that it is more significant to the global economy. Some of us who go into arts sometimes are just running away from Mathematics and some difficult science courses while some of us who go into commerce are enticed by what we see in banks and financial institutions.
Choosing subjects/courses with that mentality has proved to be often to the detriment of a number of students who were misplaced and are performing poorly because they are in places they are not cut out for. Before one chooses a course, there must be a critical examination of oneself and there are four steps which I have outlined that I believe can help in making the right decision.