18 Dec 2013


By KemmieOla,
Friday, December 27, 2013

From ancient times until now, all over the world; one fact is established in the relationship factor of all living things; a bad guy is a boss. In animal world, they are referred to as alphas; in human world, they're sometimes referred to as jerks, but we'll stick with the term 'bad guy'.

The attraction to a bad guy isn't something that is deliberate, its just that females in every specie are genetically wired to be pulled in by the charisma of the bad boy. This is why the good guys almost always get no love yo. So today, I'm going share some of the knowledge I ganered while trying to be a bad guy (thank me later). You can be a (pseudo) bad guy to the girl instead of looking like  some wimp who's dyin' for some lovin'.

Here goes;- Try to be mysterious. Don't let the entirety of your feelings show; don't go spouting poetry or singing songs like your life depends on it. Sure, tell her how much you're interested, but don't necessarily show her. Mystery on your part will incite her curiosity and keep her interested. - Confidence and charisma are two things you must possess.
As a matter of fact, if you are short, say 5ft9', you should be confident; so much so that people think you are 6ft11'. The main pull to "bad guys" is their confidence, that aura of power that they carry. Even if you are not confident, pretend; you'll find yourself changing with time. A lady will always stick with the guy who's not afraid of anything, because she knows if anything happens, he can protect her. 

- Don't come across as weak and needy. You won't get anywhere with anyone that way. In the event that she actually likes you, if you give her the impression that she needs to protect you, you'll be put in THE FRIENDZONE; you could even become the friendzone. As a matter of fact, things could get so bad that you graduate into The Family Zone and become her brother or her 'son'. That way, she can take care of you very well. Man up. Now.

- Avoid the deep level of the friendzone. See, there is a friendzone - you're just friends, there's still a chance for you. There is that friendzone- the friendship is deep at this point, you get to know her well enough to be called a boyfriend; there's still a chance for you. Then there is THE FRIENDZONE. At this point, you are still a friend, but you already go on errands for her mother, her father calls you 'my son', she thinks your elder brother is cute, you're now family; there is no chance for you. "Bad guys" don't get thrown into the deep dark sea that is THE FRIENDZONE. So run away from that place like the hounds of hell are after you. 

Kemi is a 200L Mass Communication major at the University of Lagos. She is eccentric, an avid lover of music and poetry, and a cautious observer of Life.