25 Oct 2013

WALKING THE TIGHTROPE: INTER-FAITH ROMANCES; YAY OR NAY?

By KemmieOla,
Friday, October 25 2013


Hello #WTTR readers! I am so glad to be back after what seemed like a long time away from writing! Today’s  topic although somewhat sensitive, doesn’t need a lengthy introduction because we can all relate to it. Also, like most issues concerning relationships, I would implore you to and would appreciate it if you have an open mind on this.
Before going into a relationship, there is a lot to consider. Especially for those people thinking serious relationship, might-lead-to-marriage and forever. Those things include behavioral patterns, compatibility, shared beliefs, and so on.
For a lot of people, anything can be a deal breaker, anything from an annoying little habit like a whinny laugh to a huge character flaw like an uncontrollable temper. We all bear this in mind and do the behavior check for our prospective partners before deciding on what type of relationship we’re going to have with them and whether a friend zoning might be in order.
Now, all character flaws aside, another thing that can be an issue is religious differences among both partners. A person’s religion is like the bedrock for their whole being and it can be quiet disconcerting when you have everything in common with someone except your fundamental religious beliefs. It’s even more of a challenge in a country like Nigeria where parents dictate practically everything to their children. You have the average Nigerian teenage Christian girl, who has been taught by her parents that Muslims do not believe in God or Jesus and the bible says you shouldn’t be yoked with unbelievers; and vice versa. When said girl becomes a young lady in the university, she is ingrained with the belief that Muslim boys are bad and do not believe in her God.
In the event that this young lady meets and falls in love with a nice Muslim guy, she will always think ;”he doesn’t believe in God” and this will occasionally be reflected in her attitude towards him. This could be anybody by the way, a guy or a lady; the roles can be exchanged, this is just one of many examples. But what I’m saying is this; can interfaith romances truly work out? The inspiration for this topic came from a couple very close to me that I have observed over time; the male is muslim and the female is Christian. Somehow, they have found a way to work things out and I couldn’t help but question them on how they did it. The lady said and I quote; 

“If you put your religion on your head, you won’t get anywhere
 fast. We love each other and that’s basically all that matters;
 plus I go to the mosque occasionally and he comes to my church
 sometimes. It always works when there is love.”
I can’t say for sure if that has worked for other people in inter faith relationships, and while I am a Christian; I’m also a firm believer in the rule of ‘Live and let live.’ No one religion is perfect or the absolute best. I would say in all honesty that I do not know how an inter faith relationship works, but I expect that it can’t be all smooth. So please let us know; do you think inter faith romances can work out? Can you go into an inter-faith relationship?
If your answer is yes, why? If its no, why not? Don’t forget to use the comment section and tell us your thoughts.




 

Kemi is a 200L Mass Communication major at the University of Lagos. She is eccentric, an avid lover of music and poetry, and a cautious observer of Life.

1 comment:

  1. Well, I can go into an interfaith relationship because like your friend said, it is love that matters.

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